Thursday, August 5, 2010

Takin a Step Back

Sometimes, in life, we get too wrapped up in our own crap. We need to take a step back occasionally to look at the big picture. I know our stresses are big, even if just to us, but sometimes there are things that are bigger than us. A good friend of mine has a son in the Army. He's in Germany right now. Well, he has a best friend who is in the marines. His best friend is smack in the middle of hell in Afghanistan. 7 in his troop has died already. My good friend is asking for prayers and well wishes on her Facebook page. She is also giving out the marine's contact info for those who want to send a care package.

It doesn't matter how you feel about the war and the reasons we are over there, what matter is we have men and women over there giving their lives for the U.S.A. It's high time to put our disdain for the government aside and focus on the important thing....the human lives over there. It's that simple. There are no politics, no opinions, no rationalizations...only HUMAN LIFE. They don't have to worry about how they are going to pay their rent. They don't worry how they are going to afford food. Nope. They just have to worry about something as "small" as STAYING ALIVE.

So if you have a Facebook account, I strongly urge you to head over to her page and at least give your well wishes. It would mean a lot to a lot of people. Let's stop worrying about our insignificant (in comparison) worries over here at least long enough to extend our hearts to men and women risking their lives for us while we sit on our comfy couch watching poorly acted movies. ;)

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Checking My Ego at the Door

You know. I'm really kind of tired of all the drama. I'm tired of fake friends. I'm tired of the backstabbing. I'm done with it. I am 36 years old and I am tired of people who are older, acting younger than me. It's highschool all over again. I tried to kill myself during highschool because of it all.

Drama does nothing but cause pain. It's really sad how someone can take a friendship and tear it apart because the other person doesn't act the way they think they should or feels they have such a shitty life that they have to talk smack to make themselves feel better. I don't know what it is, and it doesn't matter. What matters is that I am tired of putting myself in the middle of it all. I'm tired of someone's sad life affecting mine. I have enough crap going on in my life, I don't need to worry about what someone else is saying about me.

I just need to take a breath and remember that it's all about ego. Ego is what allows me to be affected by all of this. Ego is what allows me to get worked up about someone talking smack. MY ego. I'm better than to let someone else's ego affect me.

Yes. We all hurt when we get backstabbed. It's a normal reaction to want to lash back. That's also our ego and our attachment to that ego that allows us to stay in the hurt. FEEL the hurt. That's ok AND it's normal, but don't stay in the hurt. Allow yourself to get out of the hurt. If you need to, blog where no one can see it. Putting it out there for someone else to see just makes matters worse. It just fans the fire.

Feel the hurt. Feel the anger. But don't attach yourself to it. Be human, but don't attach yourself. Don't let your ego push you into doing something you would regret. There's too much negativity in the world and it ALL stems from ego. ALL OF IT. If we could just get rid of even 50% of the ego, life would be a hell of a lot better.

I am not going to sit here and be unrealistic and say "If we ALL get rid of our egos...." It's impossible. But try to push that ego down. you are having a bad day. That doesn't mean you have to take it out on the cashier for moving slow. She may be new....or perhaps it's not her it's the computer. Remember to not misdirect your ego. You have an ego...we all do....the important thing is how we handle it. Do you let it affect everyone around you or do you say to yourself  "It's MY ego, not theirs. I shouldn't let them pay for something that has nothing to do with them."

And that's my vent and also helps that I vented and ranted on a personal blog so I got the anger out.

So that's your lesson for today. Be aware of your ego and keep it in check. You may just find it will make your day a better one. ;)